Joel Kriofske

And Good Night to All the Beautiful Young Women: A Tale of Episodic Dementia - The Parent Becomes the Child Joel Kriofske

A Tale of Storm-Ridden, Dementia-Challenged Parent Care Told with Laugh-Provoking Humor! A poignant look at what may await many of us: The care of an elderly parent with dementia. The author, in later middle age, cares for his father, a former FBI Special Agent with an extravagant sense of humor, but too often angry and combative. Many of the scenes are set in taverns that the old man, an alcoholic, longs or demands to visit for a "shot and a beer" at the end of a day out with his son, the author - himself an alcoholic but a non-practicing one. The book explores the relationship the two had as the author was growing up, a relationship clouded by his sense that he could never please his father, even into adulthood. Devoid of bitterness, the story is told in a clear and winning style with great sensitivity and remarkable humor that cushions sadness and lightens the overall mood. Parents and adult children will greatly benefit from this beautifully-written book, using it as a starting point for discussion of how parents want to be cared for if they sink into dementia, and parent-adult child relationships in general. Both enjoyable and even fun, it's a journey through irony and enlightenment that many "survivors" will recognize, thanks to the author's keen understanding of generational contrasts and familial ties. The dissonant feelings between father and son are humorously described with compassion and understanding. A career Geriatric Social Worker and Health Care Provider who reviewed the book had this to say: "The author 'nails it' in terms of how to deal with a parent's dementia, instead of fighting it. The book contains excellent methodology for anyone dealing with elder care. As an example: The author takes his father to bars, a 'pastime' the old man still thoroughly craves and enjoys. He quietly tells the bartender that his father thinks a mug of beer still costs $0.50, and so gives him cash to cover the real price, thus achieving the b